Grandiosity

"...Grandiosity is the flip side of debilitating shame."

- From "Shame and Guilt Masters of Disguise" by Jane Middelton-Moz

 

“Grandiosity is always a cover for despair.”

- A Course In Miracles, T-9.VII.49

 

How many times in my life have I been grandiose? Too many times to count. In what ways have I been grandiose? Judging others, giving unsolicited advice as if I know what's best, chasing after accomplishments in various spheres, one-upping others. These are just a few that come to mind but, there are countless other manifestations in my 38 years of living.

I want to leave my grandiosity behind, I no longer need it. It was an attempt at esteeming myself but it was done in a dysfunctional way. Grandiosity pushes real relationships away. I'm ready to love and be loved for just being.

When I am in the presence of someone who is grandiose, I will remember that under their grandiosity is a hurt child and instead of judging myself as better than, I will hold loving and healing thoughts towards that person.

We cannot change anything unless we accept it.

"We cannot change anything unless we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate; it oppresses. I am the oppressor of the person I condemn, not his friend and fellow sufferer. I do not mean in the least to say that we must never pass judgment when we desire to help and improve. But if the doctor wishes to help a human being, he must be able to accept him as he is. And he can do this in reality only when he has already seen and accepted himself as he is."

- Carl Jung

Afternoon of Life

“Thoroughly unprepared, we take the step into the afternoon of life. Worse still, we take this step with the false presupposition that our truths and our ideals will serve us as hitherto. But we cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning, for what was great in the morning will be little at evening and what in the morning was true, at evening will have become a lie.” 

- Carl Jung