If you don't believe that everyone is equal, you must believe in idolatry. The only question for you to answer then, in regard to any relationship and any situation that arises within a relationship is: Are you the idol or the idolater?

Being either the idol or idolater will hurt you.

At times you have accepted the role of idolater in the vain imagining that at some point it will be your turn to be the idol.  How appealing is it to allow yourself to be a slave in the dim hope that sometime soon you'll get to be the master, only to return to the role of slave shortly thereafter?

All relationships must be based on equality if you want them to be Real Relationships - everything else is a compromise.  You have compromised and you have asked others to compromise.  Put an end to this sick dance and you will know what freedom is and you will know the gifts Real Relationship offer.


“Seek not outside yourself. For it will fail, and you will weep each time an idol falls.”

-A Course In Miracles T-29.VIII.43


That will work, until it doesn't.

We are a society of escape artists.  Everyone here is at some stage of grief, but unfortunately most of us seem to get stuck in the denial phase.  Denial is such a strong, pervasive and insidious thing.  It reaches out and touches everything if we are unconscious of it.  Everything we think we are and we think we want from this mind made, illusion of a self, will not last.

We run from our grief in so many different ways - workaholism, pornography, food obsession, parenting, working out, shopping, religious ritual, alcoholism, living vicariously through children, addiction to drama, addiction to anger, caretaking, sex, television, social media, a romantic relationship or a combination of multiple "less meaningful" romantic relationships, substance abuse, recovery rituals, accumulation of wealth...there is really no end to the many ways we run. 

These ways of escape work, until they don't.

No matter the form of escape we choose, unhappiness, sadness, pain, and despair will rise again once the newness of our new, false salvation wears off.  It's inevitable.  It's a flawed plan because it's source, the ego, is flawed in every way possible and every conclusion it makes is false and will lead to pain and suffering. 

Anything can be used as a tool for denial and the avoidance of grief.  It always comes down to what's underneath it, what's driving the ideas and beliefs which manifest in behavior?  

There can only ever be two drivers: Love or fear.

Beware though, the ego is so good at what it does that if you're not careful it can make it seem like you are making a choice from a place of Love, but underneath it's source is actually fear.  

There is only one escape.  There is only one way out.  There is only One to turn to....your True Self, the one that never left it's Creator.  The only way out is through true communion with God which will extend out into everything here in this world of insanity and look upon all things with Love.

Father, may you grant me the vision to see all the forms of denial I use so that I may be open to true healing. 



Age Regression

Traumatic age regression can be a result of not expressing feelings. This can create a delusional basis of reality where the foundation rests on emotional immaturity. This delusional basis manifests delusional relief before the next trauma cycle begins. Then repeat. 

Is this your life? Do you really think God wants this for you?