If you don't believe that everyone is equal, you must believe in idolatry. The only question for you to answer then, in regard to any relationship and any situation that arises within a relationship is: Are you the idol or the idolater?
Being either the idol or idolater will hurt you.
At times you have accepted the role of idolater in the vain imagining that at some point it will be your turn to be the idol. How appealing is it to allow yourself to be a slave in the dim hope that sometime soon you'll get to be the master, only to return to the role of slave shortly thereafter?
All relationships must be based on equality if you want them to be Real Relationships - everything else is a compromise. You have compromised and you have asked others to compromise. Put an end to this sick dance and you will know what freedom is and you will know the gifts Real Relationship offer.
“Seek not outside yourself. For it will fail, and you will weep each time an idol falls.”
-A Course In Miracles T-29.VIII.43